Why Adult Mother-Daughter Time Is Important – Plus, Three Activity Ideas!

We can probably all admit we don’t spend as much time with our parents as we should. Let’s face it, adult life is hard, and when you have kids, it gets even harder and crazier. On top of being a parent, you have to work to put your relationship with your husband first. So it’s easy to put your relationship with your parents on the back burner. I know not everyone has a great relationship with their mother, but I want to share why adult mother-daughter time is important.

What is adult mother-daughter time?

Pretty much what it sounds like: time spent with your mom. As an adult. Adult mother-daughter time can be spent however you want. However, remember that it’s not the activities that are important (but keep reading for some suggestions). Here are three reasons why it’s important.

First, your mom loves you.

Think about how much you love your babies. You’d do anything for them, right? Sometimes you can’t even believe how much you love them. Your mom feels the same way about you. She loves you so incredibly much and she wants to spend time with you.

And although you’re no longer dependent on her for your every need like your babies are, it’s important to continue to grow that relationship.

Second, her wisdom is invaluable.

We all remember those times when we were kids (especially teenagers), when our mom said, “Just wait until you have your own kids! Then you’ll understand.” Since I became a mother myself, I can’t tell you how much I rely on my mom’s wisdom. She’s the first person I call when something’s wrong with Little Man. My mom is the one I go to when I’m going stir crazy because of teething. She’s always the opinion I trust most when there’s a weird rash I can’t identify.

My mom is so incredibly smart, and her wisdom is absolutely priceless. Any situation I encounter—whether in motherhood, marriage, or friendships, more than likely she’s been there already. She always seems to know what to do, and I learn so much from her every day.

Finally, she’s your friend now.

My mom always says that the goal of parenting is to eventually become friends with your kids. Obviously, you can’t be their friend while you’re raising them because you’re their parent. You have to make and enforce rules, and that doesn’t make for a great friendship.

But once you grow up, you get to be friends with your mom. I can honestly say that my mother is my best friend (besides my hubby, of course). As we confide in each other, we laugh, cry, and everything in between. We talk on the phone as we go about our respective days, and kind of do life together.

Fun activities for adult mother-daughter time

Now that you know the importance of adult mother-daughter time, here are a few activities for those precious moments:

Coffee/lunch dates

Coffee and lunch dates are the easiest ways to spend some adult mother-daughter time. My mom and I get together every Tuesday, and while Little Man is napping, we spend time catching up over a cup of coffee (or two!). This is super great quality time without the distraction of chasing after a rambunctious baby boy.

We have so much fun during these dates, and we always talk a mile a minute. We share our worries and fear, and our hopes and dreams. Sometimes we laugh so hard we cry, and other times we just cry. Regardless, these times are so precious, and the memories we make are priceless.

Painting/art class

One year for Mother’s Day (I think it was Mother’s Day), I got us tickets for Paint Nite. If you’ve never been, it’s a fun class where you get to paint (following an instructor) and drink wine (or your beverage of choice). This was one of our favorite activities, because neither of us are super great artists, so we had a lot of laughs as we struggled to make our paintings look decent.

I still have the painting from that night hanging in our guest bedroom, and I smile every time I see it because I remember how much fun we had.

Theatre or ballet

So I don’t know about your husband, but there’s little my hubby enjoys less than the theatre or ballet. I’m not about to force him to go and waste a ticket when my mom enjoys it way more! Since performances are generally pretty expensive, it’s not something we get to do often. But when we do, my mom and I always have a great time. Plus, we’ve actually found some pretty reasonably-priced shows at the community theatres in town.

We get dressed up and go to dinner before the show. It’s so much fun to pretend we’re fancy! And if we really want to make a date of it, we spring for dessert after the show.

Okay, mama. You know why adult mother-daughter, so I want you to make it a priority. She loves you so much and her wisdom is absolutely invaluable as you raise your own family. Now that you’ve graduated from the parent-child relationship to the friend relationship, these are the days when you and your mom can become closer than ever.

How do you spend adult mother-daughter time with your mom? Tell us in the comments!